Need some help with my wife; Continued/ Part 2?

IBelieve gave you a good suggestion. I'm an atty, but also a mediator and I've been mediating divorce cases for about 15+ years. Everyone gave you the right advice. You've got to get out. I'd add the lying is really the worst offense. You cannot ever trust her. She has mental issues a lot greater than depression. If you don't have honesty in your marriage, you've got nothing. She sure isn't the only person who's good in bed, either. Following up on IBelieve, again--write all this down. It could save you a lot of money in potential alimony. If she has a recent work history, her chances of getting alimony are very slim. No child support issues if you didn't adopt the children. If you divorce, don't fight over the small stuff. Fight over the retirement and the house if necessary, but let her have most of the furniture and personal belongings (unless something has special sentimental value to you.) What you owned before marriage remains your separate property and she can't touch that. Hopefully, you live in a "no fault" divorce state. If you do, you don't have to prove anything to get a divorce. The debts could be a problem in a community property state. They could reflect on your credit rating. Spend a little money and see an atty to get a handle on what's facing you if you divorce. It sounds like you have more to gain than to lose. You might even get visitation with the step-children. Your Court would decide that based upon what is in the best interests of the children. The only other solution I can think of is a long term committment to a mental health facility to deal with this myriad of issues, but that's a big expense that your insurance may not cover. It also will not help unless she wants it. Good luck.